I Love a Good Wedding

 
A young friend of mine (a former student) was married on Saturday.  Loree’s wedding to Andrew was simply splendid.

It began with multiple groups of grandparents processing down the aisle to Moonlight Sonata.  Exquisite music.  I immediately thought, “Why have I never played this for a wedding before?”  When we thanked the pianist after the ceremony, Summer said “I told Loree that I regretted getting married without a bit of Debussy.” 

The kiss: what I loved is the look Andrew gave Loree–a full thirty seconds I’d guess–drinking in her smile before the kiss.  We got the sense that this remarkable young man is deliberate in all he does.

The knot: the two fathers brought up a large coil of nautical-grade rope.  The bride and groom took these two ropes and made a lover’s knot.

After the bride and groom tied the knot the wedding party all tugged on the rope to tighten the knot.  It was festive and fun!

A favorite moment was meeting Andrew at the end of the receiving line.   Smiling, he extended his hand and was genuinely pleased to meet Curt and me.  But when Loree leaned into him and said, “She wrote the words,” Andrew changed into hug mode.  Of course the words are not my words, but a quote I wrote in a card.

Here are the words.

All kinds of things rejoiced my soul in the company of my friends–
to talk and laugh and do each other kindnesses;
read pleasant books together,
pass from lightest jesting to talk of the deepest things and back again;
differ without rancor, as a man might differ with himself,
and when most rarely dissension arose
find our normal agreement all the sweeter for it;
teach each other and learn from each other;
be impatient for the return of the absent,
and welcome them with joy on their homecoming;
these and such like things,
proceeding from our hearts
as we gave affection and received it back,
and shown by face, by voice, by the eyes,
and a thousand other pleasing ways,
kindled a flame which infused our very souls
and of many made us one.
This is what men value in friends.

~ St. Augustine

Wonderful Wedding Moments

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Saturday we celebrated the wedding of Julie and Daniel, the fourth and final wedding of the year in our church community.   In this lovely picture (credit: Matthew Hurley), we are dancing a Virginia Reel.  Isn’t Julie beautiful?  She is wearing the same dress her mom, aunt and grandma wore with a gorgeous pair of cowboy boots underneath.  Directly behind her is Isaiah (white shirt) for whom many of you prayed to wake up from a coma.  There he is, dancing!  I’m leaning forward, ready to twirl around.

It was a wonderful wedding. I woke this morning through a floodtide of memories…moments worth recording:

~  The groomsmen’s toasts were simply amazing.  My friend leaned over and whispered, “If these are the kind of guys Daniel is friends with, it speaks very highly of him.”  The masterpiece was the song written by one of the best men, Daniel Went Down to Wallowa, modeled on The Devil Went Down to Georgia

 

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 ~  Collaborating with a college freshman on the composition of a violin descant for St. Patrick’s Breastplate, the bridal processional, was a hoot! We had more fun isolating a musical phrase and pulling a blues riff from it when we should have been focusing on the descant. Julie entered during the centerpiece of the song: Christ be with me.  My first exposure to NoteWorthy Composer software has me drooling.

~  I looked across the table and said, “Krista, You. are. beautiful.”  Her mother, holding with a squirming grandson agreed, “She really is.”  Krista smiled and explained, “My husband’s love makes me beautiful.”  And.  It was so sweet and genuine, not a Sunday School answer, if you know what I mean.

~  The. Kiss.

~   Our Bonnie (mother of the bride, a friend who belongs to us all) displayed extraordinary beauty and serenity.  Hosting a wedding reception in her back pasture was no worry.  She glowed with the light of grace.  It has been five years since she fought Stage 3 cancer.  We are so thankful for God’s kindness displayed in her life.

~  The entrance of the cake, held high and carried around all the tables and delivered to the head table by a Best Man (there were two), while a jig was played on the violin.  

~  When I heard the men were wearing Wranglers I was a skeptic.  However. They looked exceedingly handsome in their Chocolate Black Wranglers with cowboy boots, formal vests and, after the ceremony, cowboy hats.

~  It has been a glorious summer.  Glory can be fatiguing but it is a Good Tired.  A Happy Tired.  Looking back with a young friend, we smiled and sighed and took a deep, cleansing breath.  “Well,” she said, “I guess it’s time to start a new season of love!” 

 

Grace Infusion


This is our crazy Quinn at the original wedding site.
Before. the. ceremony.

We’re getting to be specialists in the area of sudden wedding venue changes.  Each “crisis” is an opportunity to see God work wonders.  I’m re-winding and re-viewing the details, both dazed and amazed at our Quinn and the infusion of grace in her life. 

The wedding and reception were to be at a private home, complete with a rolling, lush lawn, towering trees, a gurgling brook, and a photogenic foot bridge.  The preparations had been made and it was going to be a wedding worthy of a magazine spread. 

The back-up venue in case of rain was the Thunder Room, the “watering hole” at the rodeo grounds.  Think neon Coors Light signs, a dark and dusty den of a room, garage doors on four walls, piles of portable metal fencing, open rafters.  The Cowgirls bathroom was gulp! a twelve-seater, non-flush toilet.  The bar (kitchen) area didn’t have a sink or running water. The whole thing was tacky times twelve.

It rained all week.  The afternoon before the wedding we had a sudden downpour, the kind that produces flash floods.  It rained during the rehearsal.  It wasn’t raining the morning of, but the weather report said 70% chance of rain.

A decision needed to be made and it was the bride’s call.   Should we chance it; gamble (if you will) that we’ll stay dry?  How would we coordinate the expected 350 guests in a downpour? 

(The groom and) Quinn decided to bring the wedding inside without a tear, a pout or a grump.  She willingly gave up her picture book wedding and rejoiced that at the end of the day she would be married to the man she adored.  She took the weather as a gift from the Father’s hand.  She kept the big picture in mind and refused to be dismayed. 

Everybody swung into action, moving all the rented chairs and tables, cleaning, setting up, notifying guests, etc.  The Thunder Room was transformed.  My daughter-in-law worked her magic with flowers, Japanese lanterns and an eye for all things beautiful. 

Redemption was on display.  The transformation of the building was an inadequate reflection of the changes that have taken place in our beautiful Quinn.  She’s been to the Thunder Room many times: this was the best event she’s ever had in that room.

Quinn still walked down to Amazing Grace (only time for two verses); the shotgun shoot was canceled.   And when the rain pounded the roof while folks were eating, family and friends smiled; the wisdom of the choice was validated.

   
 

Wedding Flowers

Jessie, my son’s wonderful wife, is a blessing.
She can design flowers for a budget or a blow-out.
(One wedding had 15 dozen roses – that kind of blow-out!)
These centerpieces for a glorious wedding reception Saturday
are stunning, simple, and practically free.
All the color, excepting the greenery, came from Jessie’s yard.
Because the reception hall was so tall she wanted tall flowers.    .
The vases were left over from Carson’s wedding.
I’ve seen her take the stuff that grows in yards
and make dazzling arrangements.  In every season.
Jessie is a blessing.

  

Wedding, Friends and All Things Wonderful

Wedding music.

I have seen a spectrum of styles, various instruments, a few many-splendored glories and a few fiascoes (including the soloist who had pitch issues to begin with and ended with my threat to boycott accompanying his free-style, note-bending, ad-libbing, Donna Summersesque rendition of The Lord’s Prayer).

But nothing will ever surpass the clarity, the simplicity, the potency of one cello playing The Church’s One Foundation as the bridesmaids walked down the aisle. 

… from heav’n he came and sought her to be his holy bride;
with his own blood he bought her, and for her life he died.

All the joy and solemnity of the incipient ceremony, the thrill of anticipation, the relief of arriving at this place in this moment with these people, were distilled in the dulcet tones of the cello.  A hush descended; the sisters radiant in their turquoise dresses entered with regal dignity; the words from the hymn echoed and re-echoed in my thoughts. That was the defining moment for me.  It was the first time I’ve thought about Christ while I’ve watched a procession of bridesmaids.

The wedding sermon was superb.  You, gentle reader, are blessed because you may read it here.  I timed it:  six minutes to read.  Print it out and read it with your family.  More beauty.  More wonder. More mystery.  

The entire day was magnificent.  A coming together of friends and families near and far to witness the ceremony and rejoice at the reception.  Both families delighted with their new son/daughter/sister/brother.  A traditional southern New Year’s Day meal — and I l-o-v-e-d the steamed collards and black-eyed peas, not to mention the pulled pork.  I think I could be very happy living in the South. 

A glorious wedding brings to fruition all the years of labor and prayer and care and guidance that went into the bearing and bringing up of a child.  It is such a day of rejoicing for the parents and grandparents and all the onlookers who have watched the growth in the bride or groom’s life.        

Our beloved pastor and friend, the groom’s dad, giving a father’s blessing

The bride’s mom, a jewel beyond compare


Lindsey and Jon


You know these people don’t you?

And I was blessed to meet, in real life, Dana of Hidden Art.  Who can say when or where we met?  I think her first comment here was on March 9, 2006. At that time we didn’t have a clue that there were connections lurking underneath the framework of our online friendship.  Dana is every bit the gracious, classy, articulate woman you would expect.  Being with Dana makes you want to sit up a little straighter, because you want to, not because she’s giving you a look.  She inspires you to be a lady, to be beautiful, to be articulate.

We didn’t have the freedom to just sit and talk non-stop until the evening after the wedding.  I loved relaxing together and letting our conversation meander where it would. Another bonus was meeting her parents, lovely folk.  I am inspired by her mother who took up painting after she turned 50 and is now an accomplished artist.  I loved introducing Dana to my loved ones. 

I plan to join Dana and Cindy and others reading Economics in One Lesson by Henry Hazlitt. 

2008 began gloriously.  I believe it’s going to be a great year.

Quote Poetry, Value Fidelity

Touch of Class online catalog

When this gift came around at the bridal shower I was enamored.  Pen and notebook came out of my purse and I copied the information on the back.  House Parts makes the plaques; Touch of Class sells them.  In case anyone has eyesight as bad as mine, here’s a more readable version of the text.

ABANDON DOUBT    BE MINE   CALL IF YOU’RE LATE  DANCE AT WEDDINGS   EAT DESSERT FIRST   FLIRT   GAMBLE ON FOREVER   HARBOR A CRUSH   INITIATE ROMANCE   JUST SAY “YES”   KISS LIKE YOU MEAN IT   LOVE MY DOG   MAKE OUT MORE   NOT IN PUBLIC   OPEN YOUR HEART   PRETEND IT’S PROM NIGHT   QUOTE POETRY   RECIPROCATE   SHARE YOUR TOYS   TRUST   UNCORK CHAMPAGNE   VALUE FIDELITY   WRITE LOVE LETTERS   EXPECT HONESTY   YIELD TO CHOCOLATE   RENDEZVOUS

What is your favorite letter?  I love the M-N combination!  Do you dance at weddings?  My husband and I are shy dancers but we moved our shoulders and tapped our toes as we stood on the sidelines at the wedding this weekend.

A Father’s Blessing

Curt’s words to Carson and Taryn:

A Father’s Blessing

May God bless you with faith,
for without faith it is impossible to please God.

May God bless you with repentance,
because every faithful man and every faithful woman remains a sinner.

May God bless you with courage,
to reject the foolishness of the world and to keep the law of God in all of life.

In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
Amen.

The Wind and The Wedding

[I don’t have one picture from the wedding on our camera.  Hey bros or friends, if you have one, could you email it to me so I could insert it here?]

Condensed Version:   Last Thursday night a huge windstorm hit the Puget Sound region which left 1.5 million people without power.  One of the worst areas affected was the rural community near Taryn’s house and the site of the wedding.  Flights were canceled, our motel was without power, the restaurant providing food for the rehearsal dinner was without power, the winery (site of wedding) was without power.  The day before the wedding we were scrambling to find a place for the wedding.  Three hours before the rehearsal we were searching for a place to rehearse.  The Lord provided those places and the wedding on Sunday evening was exquisite.


Cedar (and rhody) uprooted in Taryn’s front yard

Details:  Jessie, my gifted florist daughter-in-law, and I traveled Thursday to Taryn’s house so Jessie could begin arranging flowers for the wedding.  The flowers were delivered safely just hours before the storm descended. We stayed in a motorhome that night as the tempest roared (the Advent winds begin to stir with sea-like sounds in our Scotch fir).  The wind groaned and shook the RV.  We woke early and surveyed the damage: a huge cedar down in the front yard and four trees down in the back pasture.  A different angle and the tree could have easily landed on the master bedroom and turned the weekend to tragedy. The horses were alive and hadn’t gotten out. There was no power; Taryn’s family had a gas stove that provided heat.

As Friday unfolded, the extent of the storm became manifest.  It soon became evident that we would need to start developing a Plan B.  The cell phones were constantly in use as we worked through endless details in succession, one after another. [I humbly recant my rant about loathing cell phones.] We found a Costco that had power where we could at least purchase food to feed the group assembling at the house.  This Costco had gas for sale and there was a line a mile long in both directions.  Welcome to Soviet Russia!   The off-ramp from the highway moved at a snail’s pace, at the rate it takes to fill a car tank with gas.  Back at Taryn’s house we grilled burgers, lit candles, and ended up sleeping on the dining room floor in borrowed blankets and sleeping bags. 

The Saturday morning dawn was quiet and dark.  Sea-Tac had reopened and my siblings were arriving.  We trekked down to pick them up, in yuckky, non-showered bodies.  A 1907 hotel in downtown Seattle had rooms and power so we dropped people off and worked our way back to homebase.  Don’t even get me started on Seattle traffic.

A friend with bridal connections suggested a facility for the wedding that was available Sunday evening, but not available for a rehearsal Saturday night.  Cell phones roamed and the search for a rehearsal continued.  A church graciously allowed us to use their sanctuary and all the participants in the rehearsal were notified of the change.  We started making phone calls to the 200 guests to inform them of the new venue. 

On Sunday afternoon Jessie did the most spectacular job making the new room perfect for the wedding.  She harvested greens from the downed cedar and firs and arranged them with magnificent skill.  The wood paneled walls were decorated with swags; the fireplace and mantel provided a focal point; bouquets of red and white roses, calla lilies, white daisies and deep red roses in tall, slender vases were on every table.  The soft light of  votive candles, dozens and dozens of them, made the room twinkle and glow. 

The sweet, clear tones from a harp and violin played Christmas carols as the prelude.  There was a hush as the mothers were ushered in to the tender notes of Silent Night.  Taryn was radiant on her father’s arm as they proceeded down the aisle to the music of O Holy Night.  Both fathers spoke words of blessing to the couple. Our pastor, Bonnie’s husband, gave one of the best wedding sermons I’ve ever heard.  My brother Dan sang, lovely as usual. Vows were made, rings exchanged, communion received, pronouncement made, the kiss, and then the smiles…… Carson and Taryn were incapable of straight faces.  Smiles and laughter and good cheer and celebration and  Joy to the world.

~   ~   ~  slices of joy ~   ~   ~

•  the moment before I took Collin’s arm to walk the aisle, Taryn’s mom leaned over and whispered, “You know what this means?  We’re relatives now.”

•  singing Be Thou My Vision with wobbly voice thick with tears of joy

•  watching all the groomsmen sing the first verse of Be Thou My Vision from memory.  There is something about men singing which melts me.  These young men were handsome, manly, and quite comfortable singing a hymn. 

•  dancing with my husband, eyes full of wordless wonder

•  standing with Taryn’s mom, arms around each other, watching our kids dance, soaking in the moment

•  the body of Christ ministering in countless ways.  People pitched in to help and friends far away prayed. It’s so good to be part of community where burdens and joys are gladly shared.

•  memorized scripture which came to my frazzled mind and comforted me:

The Lord gives and the Lord takes away, blessed be the name of the Lord. 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto thine own understanding. 
In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.

He gives us beauty for ashes,
the oil of joy for mourning,
a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness,
that we might be trees of righteousness,
the planting of the Lord,
that He might be glorified.


• 
sharing the experience with all but one of my siblings.  Deep belly laughs punctuated our time together.  Here is a random family picture of us at the hotel together. I’m in the middle, my brother Dan is by the window trying to get wireless connection to find a motel closer to the wedding.

 

Intersections

 

One of the fun parts of a wedding is that it provides an intersection for many disparate relationships.  There are not many times in one’s life when so many different avenues gather and meet at one event.  It is the locus of relationships familial and friendly, local and long-distant, old and not so old.  And this is true transgenerationally.

It would be fun if there were more time to introduce strangers who have much in common.  Just a few:

    •  the pastor with my older brother who have both taught Logic classes at Classical Christian schools

    •  my niece who has spent time in Zambia with my  friend who grew up in  Zimbabwe

    •  my nephew starting fire school with my friend who is an experienced Hot Shot

    •  a dear friend who walked through the deep waters of cancer & my siblings who faithfully prayed for her

I want the people I love to meet the other people I love. 

~     ~     ~     ~    ~


Which two friends would you love to introduce to one another? 
 

Monday Marriage Prayer

Lord, heavenly Father,  Thou hast joined us in this holy wedlock that
together, hand in hand, we courageously walk life’s journey. 

Bless our
home with Thy divine presence and fill our hearts with a love for Thee,
who hast sent Thy Son into the world to hallow every walk of life.

As we daily receive Thy divine forgiveness, make us also forgiving
toward each other. 

As Thou art merciful and kind, full of compassion
and long-suffering, teach us likewise to be thoughtful, considerate,
and reasonable as we face together the problems of our home.

In our joys let us not forget Thee. 

In our sorrows lets us not despair
of Thy help. 

Protect us as we go in and out of our home. 

Keep us
faithful and steadfast to Thee and Thy Word,
through Jesus Christ our
Lord.  Amen.

From the Lutheran Book of Prayer