Friend of Children

A new member of our church was born this week…


Photo KGB

We know that this child is a gift from Thee.  Grant us grace and wisdom to bring it up in the knowledge and understanding of Thy Word, which makes us all wise unto salvation. 

Bless our child with a healthy body, a clear mind, and a clean heart, and preserve it to us if it be Thy will. Grant that our child will grow up in favor with Thee and bring sunshine and joy into our hearts and our home.

Keep us all in Thy grace, forgiving us daily our sins and filling our souls with peace.  Thou art our Hiding place.  And now to Thee be praise, glory, thanksgiving for this precious gift this day and forever; through Jesus Christ, who is the Friend of children and the Savior of all.  Amen.    from the Lutheran Book of Prayer


A brother!  Photo KGB

A Most Delightful Evening

Like the tendrils of this plant our hearts are attached to a new friend.
We met Sara(h?) with a polite handshake last night.
She left this morning with hugs.

Hosting friends (and friends of friends) is such a delight.
Mark used to be a friend of a friend but after one visit
we claimed him for our very own.  When he called to ask if
we could house him and his friend Sara we were excited to see him again.
When they arrived last night, I knew the instant I saw
the book in Sara’s hand, that this was a kindred spirit.

Lingering around the table, Mark told us about his recent
trip to Poland, his three week course in Polish
and the idiosyncrasies of that language. 
His mom lives four blocks from Schindler’s factory in Krakow.
Mark said that you could see bullet holes in the walls around the
holding area where they rounded up the Jews.

Mark gave us several recommendations of foreign films
to watch.  We’re ready to check out Robert Bresson’s films
and particularly eager to watch  Dekalog, one hour films
inspired by each of the ten commandments.

Have you heard of the Polish poet Czeslaw Milosz?
I’m interested in learning more.
Here’s a short poem he wrote in 1991:


Meaning

When I die, I will see the lining of the world


The other side, beyond bird, mountain, sunset


The true meaning, ready to be decoded.

We started talking books and authors.  Sara said, “Have you
ever heard of Wendell Berry?” Oh my. Oh my.
After twenty minutes of Wendell Berry adoration
I mentioned that he and Anthony Trollope were
my favorite discoveries this past year.  Now it was her turn to stare.
“Anthony Trollope?  My mom, my brother, and my brother-in-law
are all huge Anthony Trollope fans.  The last time I was home
my mom read to me from Rachel Ray.” 
Rachel Ray?  She has a cooking show!
Yup, there is an Anthony Trollope book entitled Rachel Ray.

First sentence:
There are women who cannot grow alone as standard trees;
-for whom the
support and warmth of some wall,

some paling, some post, is absolutely
necessary;

-who, in their growth, will bend and incline themselves

towards some such prop for their life,
creeping with their tendrils
along the ground

till they reach it when the circumstances of life
have
brought no such prop

within their natural and immediate reach.

Magister Dilectus (Beloved Teacher)

Janie asked me to write a post about this Latin teacher whom I refer to so often. I solicited essays from two friends who also studied Latin.  Bonnie at Btolly and Brenda at Tanabu Girl are writing today about our beloved Mr. F. (We always called him Mister even though he was a Ph.D.) Together we have a trifecta tribute!

When we decided to learn Latin, we were desperate for help.  After a year of groping on our own towards one handhold of understanding I started praying and making phone calls.  I randomly asked people over 50 if they knew Latin.  “Well, not really; I took it in high school but don’t remember a thing,”  was the general response.  One phone call followed another as we tracked the scent of a Latin teacher. 

Eventually I was led to a professor at our local university and she was intrigued with the idea, but didn’t imagine where she would find time.  The next words out of her mouth changed our lives.  “You need to call Dr. F.  He is a retired classics professor who recently moved here with his wife.”  As luck would have it (heh heh) my husband had been contracted to do some work in their home.  My husband told me to wait in calling Dr. F. until he’d done a little background check of his own.  He came home one day and exclaimed, “Do you know how many languages this guy knows?  And he knows Biblical Greek!”  But more than anything, he was impressed with Mr. F’s attitude.  He was not pompous, arrogant, or weird – quite the opposite.

There are moments in your life that are indelibly imprinted on your brain.  I remember odd details about making the “cold call” to Dr. F.  For privacy and peace I was in our garage shivering and staring out the window of the garage door and contemplating the spider webs above the header.  After he answered the phone I explained who I was and that I represented a group of about 25, mostly kids and some parents, who would like to learn Latin; would he be willing to teach us?  His first response was, “Do you know what you are getting yourself into?  It’s not quite the same as learning Spanish.”  To which I rejoined that we would be willing to give it a try if he would be willing to take us on.

So began six years of the best teaching I have ever received.  We met one night a week for two hours so our progress was necessarily slow.  I think we went back to the beginning of Wheelock’s four or five times to shore up our faulty foundation.  Here was a man who had taught the best and brightest grad students, a shining star in the world of classics, drilling young teens on the rudiments of Latin patiently, carefully, without a hint of condescension.   I showed him my nephew’s Latin book; as he looked at the author’s name on the title page he exclaimed, “Oh my, yes! I had this fellow for a student.”

So we learned Latin.  We learned the idiom (at times he corrected the Wheelock answer to make it more idiomatically correct); we learned grammar; we declined nouns and conjugated verbs.  He told us that we were taught femina because it’s a first declension noun; however, mulier is the more common word in Latin for woman. Beyond that we learned the stories behind the sentences which we translated.  Ah, the stories! Mr. F has an encyclopedic memory and could connect words and sentences to stories from classical antiquity, medieval lore, literary episodes and current events. My boys soaked up the story of the battle of Marathon as told by the beloved Mr. F.  Wheelock’s Latin was just a springboard for teaching.  His examples to illustrate a concept came from the wide world of his reading and study.  I’ll never, no never, forget when he showed us the ethical dative and quoted Jane Austen using it. Who knew you could find the ethical dative in Jane Austen?

The Latin class became a culture class: we listened to Carmina Burana and other pieces of classical music.  He would bring a painting out and give us a lesson in art appreciation as he explained elements of the art.  He read us poems, excerpts from literature, a column from the Wall Street Journal.  We read through some Latin psalms, early church hymns, Latin poems.  A Homerian scholar, he quoted us Dido’s story in the Greek and explained it to us.  He showed us humor in unexpected places. Mr. F. was several times a guest lecturer in my co-op literature classes. 

The F’s love to name inanimate objects.  Their car was Abishag: a comfort in their old age.  They lived on a lovely piece of land and enjoyed cultivating and husbanding the property.  Mentally they divided it into the twelve tribes of Israel; Mr. F would tell his wife, “I’ll be working on Asher this morning.”  I can’t remember half of the great names they had but they were clever and fun.  Soon he will retire a second time and they will move back east.  The house they have purchased is grander than any they have previously lived in.  Their name for it? Pemberly!

At some point the class shifted from Mr. F’s house to our house.  Magister Dilectus and his wife joined us for dinner before class began.  Although we came from different perspectives theologically and perhaps philosophically, we enjoyed sweet times of communion around our table.  We now regard each other as life-long friends.  When I wish to give myself a special treat, a phone call visit with these dear friends is the thing.   

One of our first students went on to a well-respected liberal arts college (and is now a medical doctor).  When one of his professors asked Eric how he came to know Latin as a home schooler he mentioned Mr. F’s name.  His professor’s eyes bugged out and he said, “How did you get time with him?”  Eric replied that Mr. F. had retired and lived in his home town.  Thus began guest lectures at this college and eventually an invitation to return to teaching.  And our beloved Latin teacher and his equally beloved wife (a scholar in her own right) moved away to a new stage in their lives. 

By the end of our class we were down to three students; we had completed 36 of the 40 chapters of Wheelock’s.  But we learned a wealth of information, and had been infected with a desire to learn, to ask questions, to seek wisdom, to love truth, beauty and goodness. 

I may or may not pursue further formal studies when my stint as MagistraMater (teacher/mom) is completed. This one thing I know with knowledge deep in my bones: my Latin class with Mr. F. will be my Golden Age of learning.  Multiple times daily I look at a word and see the Latin behind it.  I feel like I’ve been given a secret code or a special set of glasses that makes the bright colors pop out.   My world has been expanded far beyond my expectations. 

How does one express her gratitude for such a gift?

                                                                                        

       

        Beloved Teacher,

        Nothing is better than a life of greatest diligence.                                                                       

For Lisa, the dearest of dear friends,

OLD FRIENDSHIP

Beautiful and rich is an old friendship,

Grateful to the touch as ancient ivory,

Smooth as aged wine, or sheen of tapestry

Where light has lingered, intimate and long.

Full of tears and warm is an old friendship

That asks no longer deeds of gallantry,

Or any deed at all – save that the friend shall be

Alive and breathing somewhere, like a song.

Eunice Tierjens, Leaves in Windy Weather

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Our computer at home died.  Dead.  We are hoping for a resurrection and waiting for an Elijah to come visiting.  (Or is it Elisha?)  I’m at the library and have lost this post once already; I’m pushing the 30 minute internet limit, but they like me here!  I had a picture in mind for Fine Art Friday and can’t find it on the web.  Rats!

I’m trying to learn thankfulness in all things.  I want to type: (sigh); but I don’t think sighing is learning thankfulness, do you?  (grin) 

This week has brought a mixture of light fun and heavy interactions.  Have you noticed that emotional work is very exhausting?  I’m getting random – I’d better go.  Happy November, dear reader.

In Praise of Mr. F

(Does reading “Mr. F” remind you of Sense and Sensibility <grin>?) 

I got another package this week from my friend, benefactor and kindred spirit, Mr. F. 

This man has retired from *several* illustrious careers: he worked as an engineer on equipment that went on the moon; as a district attorney he successfully prosecuted every homicide case he was given; he sat as a federal judge; he taught high school after he “retired”.  

I first met his daughter in a women’s Bible study – when I saw Mr. F at our new church the resemblance was so striking that I had no doubt whose father he was.  Over the years that we worshiped together he made a wonderful hobby of  building up other people’s personal libraries.  He bought  leather bound editions of Spurgeon’s Morning and Evening by the case to cheerfully give away. 

Our family has been the grateful recipients of many gifts and even more loans of books that Mr. F thought we might enjoy.  We’d get photocopies of articles and essays from Mr. F’s reading.  He has a 100% track record for good stuff. 

He has introduced us to (a partial list):

~ coracles and and the Welsh Prince Madog thought to have come to America centuries before Columbus;
~ Jules Verne’s The Mysterious Island
~ Paul De Kruif’s Microbe Hunters  (science history that was fascinating)
~ Conan Doyle’s The White Company
~
alternate theories on the identity of William Shakespeare
~ Shackleton’s Endurance
~
Confederate coinage and currency
~ Roger Ascham’s Toxophilus (Ascham was Queen Elizabeth I’s tutor)
~ Dava Sobel’s book Longitude (the first glimmers of hope that I could enjoy science)
~ stories of the Oregon Trail, vividly told
~ Long’s English Literature and American Literature
~ Adam Nicholson’s book God’s Secretaries about the making of the KJV

So many times information he had uncovered and enthusiastically shared coincided with our home school studies.  He always took an interest in what we were learning and the boys’ plans.  We both enjoy Puritan authors and have compared notes on Burroughs, Boston and Watson. 

Since he has moved away our conversations have been greatly reduced, but I still get treasures in the mail and occasional emails with recommendations. 

This package was a hardbound first edition of a book published in 1912 by Harper and Brothers called The Greatest English Classic, A Study of the KJV of the Bible and It’s Influences on Life and Literature by Cleland McAfee.
 
In an accompanying letter Mr. F wrote:

I enjoy being exposed to trained and disciplined erudition which seems to be more difficult to find in “modern day writers”, even the good ones.  The rigors of education were formidable years ago and those who read the “old guys” (as Curt describes them) benefit greatly from their learning.

I admire and appreciate his curiosity and inquisitiveness, his thirst to keep learning, and his instinctive generosity.  What joy it is to have such a friend.  Thanks, Mr. F!

Fine Art Friday on Thursday – Kee Fung Ng

Sampan Girl by Kee Fung Ng

Girl with Little Brother by Kee Fung Ng

Chinese Chess by Kee Fung Ng

Girl with Little Sister by Kee Fung Ng

 

This seems to be my China week.  I saw the Chinese cello maestro, Yo-Yo Ma, in concert (still glowing!).  Blog sistah Amy is over in China on a medical mission and blogging about it at Amy Loves China. On a more prosaic level, my siblings and I went out to a favorite Chinese restaurant, New Star. My sister Margo, a New Star patron for almost 30 years, is on a first name basis with Tom, the owner. 

While we were eating my eye was drawn to a large painting on a wall in another section. Four children are sprawled all over the bow of a junk, dangling their legs.  The children’s faces were joyfully serene.

As I walked over to get a closer look, my sister summoned Tom, who graciously answered my questions.  According to Tom, Kee Fung Ng is little known here in the states [although he does have a gallery in San Francisco] but is very well known in Hong Kong.  He felt lucky to have an original Ng painting.  They used to have another one in the store but his father liked it so much, he took it home.  Father has passed; step-mother still has painting. Exit Tom.

Googling “Kee Fung Ng” found these plates. They don’t compare to the painting in New Star, but it’s the best I can do.

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I see two of my best friends from childhood soon!  Ruthie is coming over today to spend the afternoon with me.  And Michelle (Micky to me) is stealing me away Friday for a day in downtown Chicago.  There’s something about the pulse of the inner city, particularly the Loop, that gets my countrified blood accelerating.  Will we hit the Art Institute or see the King Tut exhibit at the Field Museum? I’ll let you know next week!  Both of us much prefer museums to shopping, but however we spend the time, we shall be talking and listening to one another. 

Dear, old friends are such a comfort.  We’ve been through thick and thin, hither and yon, painful moments of grief and great times of fun together.  No matter the amount of time since we’ve last talked — it takes only a moment to pick  up the threads of the relationship and be knit together.  

By Saturday evening I will be back in my own home!  My guys at home are back-packing so I won’t see them for another day after I return.  Sigh. Hat tip to Diane for quote:

An enormous part of my past does not exist without my husband. An enormous part of my present, too.  I still feel somehow that things do not really happen to me unless I have told them to him.   ~ Anna Quindlen

     

Inspiration

I knew she was coming, but I barely recognized her when she stepped out of the car. I hadn’t seen her in several years.  My friend Michelle (in the black tee) lost **110** pounds in the last 1 1/4 years. WOW!  Gracious!  She had gastric bypass surgery – her liver was about to give out and it was vital to her health to lose weight.  She has changed her mind along with her habits:  no-soda ever,  yes- avocado a day,  yes- lots of tomatoes, no-white flour and no-sugar, no-hamburgers.  In addition she has morphed into a very, very active person: horse back riding is her passion, extreme (climbing up and down ridges) hiking is a regular activity. What is truly incomprehensible is that she was widowed halfway through the weight loss and kept losing. It’s been so good to have time with her.

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Don’t you find other’s successes inspiring? 

These words popped out at me on Sunday, reminding me of the grace available to me to gain victory in this daily battle:

Jesus lives, and by his grace, vict’ry o’er my passions giving,
I will cleanse my heart and ways, ever to his glory living.
Me he raises from the dust:
Jesus is my hope and trust.