Monday Marriage Quote


Albert Anker, artist


“I suppose it was that in courtship everything is regarded as provisional and preliminary; and the smallest sample of virtue or accomplishment is taken to guarantee delightful stores which the broad leisure of marriage will reveal. But the door-sill of marriage once crossed, expectation is concentrated on the present.  Having once embarked on your marital voyage, it is impossible not to be aware that you make no way and that the sea is not within sight – that, in fact, you are exploring an enclosed basin.”                                     ~ George Eliot in Middlemarch

Monday Marriage Quotes


The quotes today are from the book A Puritan Golden Treasury.  Enjoy!

Marriage doth signify merry-age.         Henry Smith

First, he must choose his love, and then he must love his choice.   Henry Smith

Affection without action is like Rachel, beautiful but barren.          John Trapp

A greater hell I would not wish any man, than to live and not love the beloved of God.  Thomas Brooks

Of love there be two principal offices, one to give and another to forgive.   John Boys

Monday Marriage Quotes

“If two people who love each other let a single instant wedge itself between them, it grows – it becomes a month, a year, a century; it becomes too late.”
   ~  Jean Giradoux,
       quoted in Patches of Godlight (Jan Karon)

Here is the cake from a bridal shower we enjoyed this weekend for my beloved future DIL.  There was a tropical theme: you can see fishnet and sand.  Aren’t the orchids lovely?  My beloved DIL, a floral designer, did all the decorating.

My Search for a Dress

 
“And why worry about your clothes? 
Look at the field lilies! They don’t worry about theirs.”
Matthew 7:28


My son is getting married in December.  I’ve been looking for a dress to wear for several months.  It’s been a struggle to find something in between frumpy and slutty.  Something between dowdy and “how-dy!”.  Something between a potato sack and a pretty slip.  A dress that fit and was fitting.

I’ve shopped locally, I’ve shopped at the big cities 2 1/2 hours away. My MIL and DIL (who both have better tastes and ideas about clothes than I) have each taken up the cause: one looking through piles of catalogs and the other spending hours surfing the web.  My usual nonchalant attitude evaporated as the countdown to the big day continued.

I’ve prayed before in general “Lord help us” prayers; it was time to get specific.  Friday night I started praying intentionally for a dress that was 1) under $100,  2) beautiful, and  3) modest. 

Yesterday my mother-in-law burst in my front door so full of excitement.  She had found a dress in a catalog that she thought would work.  As she was picking up a catalog order in our small department store she mentioned how beautiful this particular dress was.  The lady behind the counter stared at my mother-in-law and said, “That dress was just returned today. I’ll be shipping it back tomorrow, but if your DIL wants to buy it today she could.”  One dress, my size, one day, here in my small town.  I went down, tried it on and it was perfect!  Thank you Lord!

 

Monday Marriage Quote – G.K. Chesterton

Very few people ever state properly the strong argument in favour of marrying for love or against marrying for money.  The argument is not that all lovers are heros and heroines, nor is it that all dukes are profligates or all millionaires cads.  The argument is this, that the differences between a man and a woman are at best so obstinate and exasperating that they practically cannot be got over unless there is an atmosphere of exaggerated tenderness and mutual interest.  To put the matter in one metaphor, the sexes are two stubborn pieces of iron; if they are to be welded together, it must be while they are red-hot. 

Every woman has to find out that her husband is a selfish beast, because every man is a selfish beast by the standard of a woman.  But let her find out the beast while they are both still in the story of “Beauty and the Beast.” Every man has to find out his wife is cross-that is to say, sensitive to the point of madness: for every woman is mad by the masculine standard.  But let him find out that she is mad while her madness is more worth considering than anyone else’s sanity.                                                                                                                      

                                ~ G.K. Chesterton in The Common Man



Monday Marriage Musings

A few years ago three young men in our small church left home to go to college in Washington, Kentucky and Florida.  Last Christmas each brought home his “beloved”  to our valley for a visit.  The three couples spent one day snowboarding together. This Christmas, within a space of three weeks,  these three young couples will be getting married in three different states.  It is such a joy to see how God has blessed these ones we’ve  known and loved and watched since they were young boys.  I’ve had each of them as students and one of these dear boys is my own son.  

In my daily reading, any sentences appropos to marriage get my attention like a flashing light in a rear view mirror.  I would enjoy sharing my gleanings on a weekly basis, as time allows. 

Funny story:  When my beloved and I were engaged we were given a list of books on marriage to read.  One of the books was Elisabeth Elliot’s Let Me Be a Woman.   Curt was told to read this book even though it was written for women.  At the time he was binding cardboard boxes at the dump for City Garbage when he wasn’t  taking classes.  His co-workers were rough, crusty, unpolished…..raw.  His lunch hour was prime reading time but he knew there was no way he would survive in that job if he were caught reading that title.  He removed the dust jacket and was always careful to hold the book so the spine didn’t show!

Surely it is impossible to love “too much,” for love is from God, who is Love.  Usually we love
too little and too sentimentally.  Our love, God-given though it be, is usually mixed up with
possessiveness and selfishness.  It needs strengthening and purifying.  Human love is often
inordinate, which means disorderly, unregulated, unrestrained, not limited to the usual bounds. 
If we love someone more than we love God, it is worse than inordinate – it is idolatry.  When
God is first in our hearts, all other loves are in order and find their rightful place.  If God is not
first, other loves, even those which are in no sense sexual, easily turn into self-gratification and
therefore destroy both the lover and the beloved.    Elisabeth Elliot in Loneliness


My Son and His Beloved

This was taken at an abandoned mine during the annual family backpacking trip earlier this month.  They look happy don’t they?  They’re getting married at the end of the year, Lord willing.  Yay!

Edit – Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday DS#2, Happy Birthday to you!  May God bless you beyond all that you could ask or think in the year ahead.  We love you, dear boy!

Fine Art Friday – The Village Wedding


        The Village Wedding by Sir Samuel Luke Fildes

My son and his fianceé have been spending their last week before school starts with us.  We’ve been working on loose ends for their December wedding.  I wanted Fine Art Friday to reflect this week and thought of Fildes picture. I love the way aspect of community in this celebration and the cross-generational participation.   (Aside –  I love seeing younger children at weddings and wince whenever I read “no children please” printed on invitations.)

Happy Friday, all!