Mom Remembers

Chris holding Ethan

It’s your birthday, Hoffer.  This is the age that everyone wants to be: eternally 29!  It feels like this is the last year of your youth. Next year, I’ll have a middle-aged son.  Which is a good thing! I’ve been reviewing the sweet and savory flavors of your journey. Here are some bits:

::  Your dad refused to let me name you Christopher Robin, assuring me that you would not appreciate being named after Pooh’s best friend.  As usual, he was right.

::  I walked you to school your first day of first grade at Central. It was so momentous to me…such a watershed. You took it all in stride. A photo of you, sitting at your desk in red-and-white striped shirt, made the front page of The Observer.

::  I drove you to school your first day of second grade at Heidi Ho. You balked. Refused to enter the classroom. Stunned me.  My compliant child had the ability to rebel!

::  Back at Central for third grade, there was The Day you grew up. No more goodbye kisses. When I dropped you off, your classmates were loitering on the sidewalk. You leaned left towards me, pivoted right toward your friends, looked back at me, paused, did a vague hand motion, mumbled “Bye…”, and opened the car door.  That goodbye ballet is seared in my memory.

::  The out of the blue jolt you will NEVER live down.  I’d like to think I forgave you the instant you realized the thrust you gave me. “Mom, if you and Dad ever get divorced, can I live with Dad?”

::  The time I yelled, “Strike him out, Chris! You’ve done it before; do it again!”  You informed me later that you had never struck that batter out. My over-the-top baseball mom-ness embarrasses me now.

::  How you drove a truck across the mountain one of your first days working at RD Mac. People tended to assume you were older and gave you responsibilities. And you have carried them faithfully.

::  The horror you expressed at how close you came to saying “whom did you want?” at baseball practice.  I would have never lived it down. You caught yourself in time, and, I believe, have never used whom since.  I was an obnoxious Grammar Sheriff, wasn’t I?

::  The day I penciled out how buying a house was a good investment. You embraced the idea; within two years you were a homeowner. Never thought it would take so long to sell your investment, huh?!

::  The night you asked Jessie to be your wife.  Why, oh why, did I have to be in Portland? But I loved the phone call, the smiles I could hear, the joy. Her love for you is such a gift.

::  The tears you wiped after Preston’s birth reminded me of the tears your dad wiped when he looked down at your newborn face. Tenderness over babies is great grace.

::  The Wild Cow Race this Fourth of July.  You in the rodeo? Seriously? After the chutes opened, I don’t think I breathed for three minutes.

Happy Birthday, dear boy.  Your broad shoulders are capable. It’s been so much fun watching you grow up.

Love,  Mom


5 thoughts on “Mom Remembers

  1. Carol, this was beautiful… and made me cry thinking of my own little ones who aren’t so little anymore.  What a wonderful son you have.

  2. What a wonderful list to find esp. since mine are still under eight and 30 seems like it could never really come for any of them.  I love the humor and tenderness shared in this list.  Happy Mother’s Day to you on this August birthday of your son!  🙂

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