A Cozy Talk About Pornography

Saturday morning the man I adore and I sat down for a cozy breakfast together.  We reviewed the past week, talked about our plans for the upcoming week; the conversation moseyed hither and yon. Of all places, we landed on pornography; another Christian we know is jumbled up in this morass.  

“God is so faithful,” my wise husband remarked. “He’s told us that if we persist, he will give us over to our sin.”

We sing Great is Thy Faithfulness with full hearts and think about the provision and mercies of God.  I don’t  normally think about God’s faithfulness relative to hardening hearts, keeping His word, and giving people over to their lusts.

But my people would not hearken to my voice;
and Israel would none of me.
So I gave them up unto their own hearts’ lust:
and they walked in their own counsels.
Psalm 81:11-12

The heart has devices for getting its desires. Porn is available and it seems “harmless” in the privacy of our home.  It’s far too easy.  I think fear is a good motivator here.  Not as good as love, but fear works. 

We need to talk openly about this sin with our kids.  We need to be approachable so they can tell us they need help. Do you know how to check the history on the computers in your home?  Do you? I like the idea Netflix has where you sign up as “Friends” with others and they have access to your viewing history.  It also works to see what your friends like.  If you are interested in being Netflix friends with our family, message me.

Women are not exempt from this problem.  Many novels are pornography of the emotions.  Benjamin Disraili said, “A woman guanoed her mind by reading French novels.” 

A church leader in our town resigned/was arrested because his pornography habit expanded to making secret videos of girls in the showers at the church camp.  His words to his congregation haunt me: “I thought I could handle this.” 

Lord, have mercy.

3 thoughts on “A Cozy Talk About Pornography

  1. This past Sunday we had a wonderful sermon on Psalm 6, and in the application the pastor reminded us of the section on Providence in the WCF (west conf faith chapt 5 sect 5)
    Allow me…
    “The most wise, righteous, and gracious God doth oftentimes leave, for a season, his OWN children to manifold temptations, and the corruption of their own hearts, to chastise them …” et cetera.
    Flee immorality. 1 Cor 6:18
    Yes, we need to make sure our children know that no one is exempt.  Brave of you to post about this.

  2. My father is a living testimony that if you persevere in asking God to deliver you from this horrible sin, and you make yourself accountable to an elder, He will deliver you. Dad was addicted for twenty-some years – ever since his stint in Vietnam. He would do okay for a while, then slip again. He finally asked an elder to help, confessed to our entire family, and God set him free. That was ten years ago, and although he is very careful about what he views on TV and movies, he says he has not even had the desire to sin in this area again. God is faithful.

  3. With every temptation there is a way of escape.  We have used the Covenant Eyes program for the  internet for both prevention and accountability.  You sign up for it online. I like it because it doesn’t even bother with the blocking-  if one wants to, they can just get around that.  It is similar to the netflix idea, exept that it keeps a record of everywhere you go, and the only way not to keep a record is to turn it off.  It sends a weekly account to the people you have picked to hold you accountable, and if it is turned off it tells you that as well.  It is a good tool for helping those who want to flee this, and for those who want to help those friends fight the good fight of faith.   I praise God with nnjmom above, because I’ve seen it over and over again, if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us those sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  Praise be to the Lord Jesus Christ.

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